Here is the bonus I was talking to you about. Something to ponder over:
We are brought up in a culture to treat materialistic things as “bad” or in a condescending manner.
What do you want in life?
What? Money? Shee. You are so materialistic…
So be it with appearances. To say that I want a good looking guy is considered so … (I don’t want to use that word here). If the girl said “I like someone understanding and caring…” Oh! She is so nice and mature and … humbug. Is it wrong for a girl to want a good looking guy (nothing withstanding)? We hear so often that the matrimonial advt. are getting so “urgggh”. Wanted a pretty homely fair girl. So cheap. Why? Should a guy say plain, dark “plumpish” girl? Why would they? Why would anyone say that? Some people can’t stand fat. Some people can’t stand a flat stubby nose. So what’s wrong? Are we fostering an environment of lies in order to appear decent and civilised?
Is it wrong for a person to be clear in saying that “Money matters to me and I am going headlong into it” or “I want to get married only to US guys, because I get a free trip to US and don’t have to exert myself too much for that”?
If your philosophy doesn’t agree with it, does it become a bad philosophy if someone else follows it?
If a guy rejected a girl because she was plain, would you call him a cheapo?